Getting quality education in school is good and students should be made to study hard to excel in their academic pursuit. However, education is not the only reason for attending a school. Teachers, as well as parents, have roles to play in making children become better people in all ways.
Education is a vital tool that helps transform the mind to see people from different backgrounds and cultures as one. It is more than learning the English language or knowing how to sum or multiply figures. A school is a place that makes a child a better person.
Also, education is a tool that helps students prepare their minds on how to deal with some unwanted behaviour from others.
What behaviour are we talking about? Well, one of the serious issues facing students in schools in Nigeria is bullying. The prevalence of bullying in primary and secondary schools is affecting the mental and social state of students, thus, not making students study and learn effectively.
Although it would be almost impossible to completely rid schools of bullies, teachers and parents can equip children and youths with tips on how to deal with a bully. That is the purpose of writing this article!
In this article, we shall look at some interesting statistics about bullying, types of bullying, and how to deal with a bully.
Some Interesting Facts About School Bullying
For you to have landed on this page means either you have been bullied or one of your loved ones has become a victim of a bully. Whichever way, bullying can cause physical, social, and mental health issues to its victims and this attitude should be frowned at.
Who is a bully? A bully is anyone who has an abusive attitude and derives pleasure in causing others pain.
Unfortunately, bullying has been prevalent in secondary school and primary school across Nigeria. A lot of research has been conducted in different schools in Nigeria and the research is to let the public be aware of the rate of bullying in schools.
Will bullying be stopped after the research was carried out? Of course, No. However, the research and report would help students and others know the harmful consequence of the behaviour and what to do to deal with it.
Below are some interesting facts you need to about bullying in Nigeria:
- It was reported that almost 4 of every 5 students (78%) reported victimization from bullies in school
- About 85% of students admitted to bullying other children in school at least once
- More than 50% of students are likely to have been bullied in school
- 30% of students that were bullied have likely bullied other students in return
- It was reported that most Nigerian students that were accused of being bullies have been victims of bullies in the past.
This information is gotten from a journal that was published by top researchers who took it upon themselves to report the victimization of children in school how it affects their physical, social, and mental health.
This report was never meant to scare people but to create awareness about the severity of bullying to pupils and students of all age groups. This will create an anti-bully society or society that is almost void of violence among children in schools.
Tips On How To Deal With School Bullying in Nigeria
There are different types of bullying - physical, verbal, emotional, tribal, and cyberbullying. This unwanted behaviour or violence among secondary students and primary school pupils needs to be dealt with to reduce victimization.
Fortunately, there has been a collaboration between teachers, parents, the national government, and the public to sensitize on how to deal with bullies.
With the advice that was given to students, victims of bullies can now freely share or report the issue to teachers or parents and they will be guided on how to handle the challenge.
Below are some useful tips to help deal with a bully in a school environment:
Try To Be Around Your Friends Most Of The Time In School
Most victims of a bully are those who always isolate themselves from others. While in school, try to have some friends and be close to them. These friends would be ready to defend you if need be and it is a good way to ward off bullies. A bully feels comfortable harassing a person when the person is alone and looks vulnerable.
Get close to your friends and relate with them what you are passing through in the hands of a bully. Most friends are anti-bullies and would be ready to defend you at all costs.
A bully derives joy when he/she knows that a victim is being hurt. The best way to deal with bullying is to simply walk away from them. Doing so means you are passing a message of not being perturbed by the threats. No doubt, the awful comments from bullies will surely hurt, but you shouldn't let the bully know you are being hurt. Doing this makes bullies have a rethink.
Talk To An Adult You Trust
Fear of further victimization is keeping most children from speaking when being bullied. As a victim of violence or unacceptable behaviour, you should speak to a person you trust - it could be any of your teachers, parents, or older siblings. Doing this will not only make you feel a sense of relief but you will also get advice on how to deal with a bully.
Prepare For Comebacks For Bullies
Comebacks for bullies is another amazing way to curb bullying among primary school pupils, high school students, and college students. Giving these bullies some subtle replies can make them feel less of themselves. Some of the comebacks for bullies include:
- Do you feel good saying this?
- Please, I expected better from you
- I respect your opinion about me but I don't care about it
- Enough of all these!
- I know you are trying to sound funny
- I never thought you could come up with such an idea
- You look better when you don't engage in awful things like this
- What you said to me is less than what others have said to me in the past
- Grow up!
If you can keep using any of these comebacks or come up with your own, you will frustrate your bully to the point of leaving you alone.
Most bullies believe their victims are always weaker and vulnerable to violence. Now, you have to use reverse psychology on anyone fond of bullying you. Whenever a bully approaches you to say derogatory words to you, be bold to speak back to them. This would get the bully off balance especially if it happens in a public place. Since they expected you not to say anything, your bold response would leave them embarrassed.
Steer Clear Of Bullies
Whether you are a primary, secondary, or college student, you always know the bullies in your class or school. A great way to save yourself from these guys is to avoid them as much as possible. Yes, it is true that you have to be bold whenever a tyrant confronts you, however, you can save yourself from mental health issues by completely avoiding him/her.
Doing this is never a sign of weakness. You are just trying to avoid abuses that would make you feel miserable all day long.
As a victim of bullying, it is easier for you to start thinking you have a problem. No, that's not true! As a matter of fact, the person bullying you is the one with a problem.
Just know that there is nothing wrong with you and you are perfectly fine. In life, humans are meant to have different personalities. The fact that you are not acting like another person doesn't make you a coward. You are just you and unique in your ways. In most cases, these bullies act out of jealousy.
Try Out Other Tricks That You Think Might Work For Your
Dealing with school bullying is not easy for most pupils and students. You may discover that the tips you get from parents at home are not perfectly working for you. If you have to tweak things up, just do it. Take your time to study the bully and come up with some comebacks that would make him/her feel awful.
Some Things To Avoid When Dealing With Bullying In Schools
Dealing with bullying in secondary school or any level of education requires technical handling. We have talked about things to do to deal with a bully. However, there are things you need to avoid when being bullied. Below are things not to do to a bully:
- Don't ever think of becoming a bully because you want to retaliate.
- Don't transfer the anger to other people because you are being bullied. Keep it to yourself and believe you can handle the situation.
- While depression and anxiety may set in, do not ever think of self-harm. It would only make you are a coward.
- Don't ever skip school or interesting activities because of fear of being bullied.
Following these useful will help you deal with any Nigerian bullying you in school or other environments.
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